What Are Kegels and Why Should You Be Doing Them?

I often post on my Instagram stories attempting positivity and reminding my followers to stay hydrated, wear their SPF, treat themselves well and to do their Kegels. But last week a close friend messaged me to ask, “uh Lex, what are Kegels?” and I realised that...

The Shit No One Tells You About Terminating A Pregnancy… And Not Regretting It

This story is that of the author’s experience and may or may not reflect anyone else’s. For information, advice and tailored support services, the British Pregnancy Advisory Service are on-hand to discuss options with all pregnant people. The author of this piece has...

I chose not to have an abortion. But I believe everyone should have the choice.

TW: Pregnancy termination, pregnancy loss, death, sexual assault, graphic descriptions of medical procedures. This gets graphic and uncomfortable, so please don't read on if you feel that these themes could upset you. Statistics referred to in this piece have come...

There is no ‘right’ age to have a baby. Period.

When I pulled back my freshly dyed purple hair, slicked on some lipgloss and grabbed a big rucksack to spend my 30th birthday partying with my friends in a field festival-style, I did not envisage having a child less than a year later. The prospect of having a baby...

The Shit No One Tells You About Raising A Mixed Heritage Child

Mixed heritage people are one of the fastest growing demographics in the British population and can face unique challenges and racism. As children, mixed heritage people may not be considered easily identifiable as the child of their parent/s upon first glance -...

The Shit No One Tells You About Going Through A Miscarriage

We know that miscarriage happens in 1 in 5 pregnancies, but it's estimated that the figure could be as high as 1 in 4; because not everyone knows they're going through it. Emily is one of the women that has been through the devastating experience of losing her baby...

How Running Became My Motherhood Therapy

I took up running as a way of getting in some exercise combined with baby-free time almost 2 years ago, and quickly found in it a great way of getting out, about and relatively fit post-partum. I still run today, but a comment I read on social media last week has made...

Am I Boring The Shit Out Of Everyone By Posting Baby Pics Online?

Everyone has someone that they're 'friends' with on a social media channel who posts reams and reams of photos of the same thing… that you just don't give a shit about. For some people, it's horses or cars or terrible memes. For others, it's their pets or their home...

Why New Parents Now Should Give A Shit About Children’s Centres Closing

All over the country, Surestart Children's Centres lie closed, empty or replaced with private services. In Norfolk, it wasn't until October 2019 that Children's Centres closed their doors for the last time. A year prior, the local Council held a public consultation on...

The Shit No One Tells You About Parenting When You Have An Invisible Illness

There are over 14 million people disabled people in the UK who each live with unique talents and challenges in their daily life; and those with invisible illnesses often go misunderstood. For those that are parents, particularly to young children, there's lots of...
The Dark Art of Giving Advice

The Dark Art of Giving Advice

"Well, we always did it like that... and my kids turned out OK" The second you tell people you’re pregnant, or have a visible baby bump, it seems like everyone loves to give you advice on pregnancy and parenting; often unsolicited.  My finding out that I was pregnant so late meant that I was pretty open-minded to any advice shared with me – after all, I knew nothing about babies and felt...

“Oh, that’s not my waters. It’ll just be wee.”

“Oh, that’s not my waters. It’ll just be wee.”

 I don’t know why, given the unusual circumstances around my pregnancy, I had assumed that giving birth to my baby would be straight-forward. My life just doesn’t seem to work like that. Thankfully, I can report back now that I found giving birth the most empowering and important experience of my life, and I still carry a huge sense of achievement for having managed it. It wasn’t as...

I’m… WHAT NOW?!

I’m… WHAT NOW?!

Being told that you’re pregnant when you weren’t expecting it will always be a huge shock. Being told you’re pregnant when you weren’t really ever planning on it will always be a huge shock. But being told you’re SIX MONTHS pregnant when you were told two days prior by a doctor that you definitely weren’t? Yeah. That’ll shit you up, alright. I often get told by people that they don’t believe me...